☀ Based on real studies · Gottman, Amato & co.

What’s the forecast for your relationship?

Answer a few questions based on decades of scientific research and receive your Relationship Forecast: is your relationship headed for clear skies… or a storm warning?

free · anonymous · reliability: meteorological
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Our satellites 🛰

This site is humorous, but our measuring instruments are real: here are the studies feeding the algorithm (all worth reading with a straight face).

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Contempt kills couples. By watching couples argue for 15 minutes in his lab, John Gottman predicted divorce with roughly 90% accuracy — a figure computed after the fact on the couples studied, widely cited and sometimes debated. His number-one signal: contempt — sarcasm, eye-rolling, condescension. His "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse": criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling.
Gottman & Levenson, J. of Marriage and Family, 1992–2000
5:1
The magic ratio. Stable couples maintain about 5 positive interactions for every negative one — even during conflict. Below 1:1, the statistics get brutal.
Gottman, "What Predicts Divorce?", 1994
28–32
Age at marriage matters. Marrying before 20 sharply increases risk. The statistical sweet spot sits roughly between 28 and 32 — after that, risk appears to creep up slightly each year.
Wolfinger, Institute for Family Studies, 2015
×2
Divorce is (a little) hereditary. Children of divorced parents are roughly twice as likely to divorce themselves. Not destiny — just a statistic worth knowing.
Amato & DeBoer, J. of Marriage and Family, 2001
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Money fights are the worst fights. Financial disagreements predict divorce better than arguments about chores, in-laws, or anything else. Income doesn’t matter — the conflict does.
Dew, Britt & Huston, Family Relations, 2012
$20k
The luxury wedding paradox. Across ~3,000 couples, those who spent over $20,000 on their wedding divorced MORE than those under $1,000. The pricier the ring, the higher the risk too. Science has a sense of humor.
Francis-Tan & Mialon, Economic Inquiry, 2015
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Isolated couples are fragile couples. Couples embedded in a solid social network (shared friends, family, community) divorce less. Divorce even "spreads" through friend networks, like a cold.
McDermott, Fowler & Christakis, Social Forces, 2013
∅ frequency
Sex matters, but not how you’d think. It isn’t frequency that predicts stability — the link to wellbeing plateaus fast. It’s the desire gap between partners and the ability to talk about it that make the difference.
Mark & Murray; Mallory et al. (meta-analysis)
🧭 commitment
Wanting to stay can be measured. The “investment model” shows that perceived commitment — how solid your shared vision is — holds a couple together even when satisfaction dips.
Rusbult, investment model
↔️ demand / withdraw
The worst duo: one pushes, one flees. When one partner presses and the other shuts down, the loop feeds itself. It’s one of the best-documented patterns of couple distress.
Christensen & Heavey
Our "methodology", in full transparency: your report analyzes dozens of factors, each weighted by the strength of the predictor in the literature (contempt weighs several times more than wedding cost), and adapted to your situation. The final score is an indicative blend — research-inspired, never clinically validated. No few-minute questionnaire can predict your future, least of all ours. Studies describe population averages, not individual destinies.

The quiz questions (up to 42)

How long have you been together?

Separation risk statistically peaks between years four and eight.

Right now, you are…

This lets us skip questions that don’t apply to you.

Marriage, in your story?

No judgment — just so we know whether the budget question makes sense.

Kids, in your world?

Select all that apply.

And concretely, how is it set up?

This lets us skip co-parenting questions if that's not your setup.

A serious union that already ended?

Remarriages divorce more — mainly via unprocessed patterns and blended-family complexity.

When you two argue, what does it look like?

In 15 minutes of arguing, Gottman predicts divorce with about 90% accuracy — a figure computed after the fact on the couples studied, widely cited and sometimes debated. Signal #1: contempt.

After an argument, making up…

Successful repair attempts separate stable couples better than the absence of conflict does.

The overall vibe between you, day to day?

Stable couples keep ~5 positive moments per negative one.

When you think of your partner, spontaneously…

The “fondness and admiration system” is one of the pillars of lasting couples.

Do you still laugh together?

It's not having the same sense of humor that matters (that predicts nothing) — it's the laughter you create together: the in-jokes, the shared giggles.

When a topic stings: who pushes, who pulls away?

The demand-withdraw cycle is one of the best-documented patterns of couple distress.

When your partner asks you to reconsider…

Refusing your partner’s influence predicts instability; accepting it is protective.

The big decisions (money, where to live, plans): who decides?

Asymmetry itself isn’t the problem — asymmetry that isn’t mutually accepted is.

The daily load (chores, logistics, mental load) leans…

Perceived inequity predicts dissatisfaction far better than the objective split does.

Talking money together feels like…

Money fights predict divorce better than any other conflict topic.

Your intimate life, these days?

Sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction move together and predict each other over time.

Desire, between you, leans…

It’s the gap in desire between partners — not absolute frequency — that’s linked to distress.

Talking about sex together is…

Sexual communication is the main mediator between intimate difficulties and satisfaction.

Jealousy, in your relationship, is…

Jealousy is a marital problem directly predictive of divorce.

Your social life as a couple?

A solid network protects. Divorce even “spreads” between friends.

True for you?

It’s not the ordeal that weakens a couple — it’s weathering it separately.

True for you?

It’s less the amount than the mismatch: couples whose drinking habits diverge split more than those who drink similarly.

Your core values — family, money, faith, culture…?

Unmanaged “perpetual problems” make up 69% of couple conflict.

Your shared vision of the future is…

Couples who “decide” their future hold better than those who “slide” into it.

Work-wise, where are you two right now?

Prolonged unemployment is a recognized factor — via financial stress and self-esteem.

You picture a future together…

Perceived commitment is one of the most robust predictors of stability.

How old were you when things got serious?

The 28–32 window is established on FIRST unions — which is why we only ask this here.

True for you?

What stays unspoken tends to replay; what’s said gets defused.

Your wedding budget — or your biggest couple celebration?

Cult study: weddings over 20,000 divorce MORE than those under 1,000.

On raising and organizing the kids, you are…

It’s the parenting alliance, more than having kids, that protects or weakens.

Since the kids arrived, your couple…

Satisfaction dips on average when kids arrive, then rebounds. It’s a phase, not a flaw.

True for you?

Blended-family complexity is the #1 factor in fragile remarriages.

Your two parenting lives (each your own) coexist…

For two-household couples, the key factor isn't parenting but custody logistics and the couple time left over.

The kids question between you?

Disagreement about kids is among the hardest to reconcile — there’s no middle ground.

Living apart, for you, is…

Evidence still limited: what matters seems to be whether it’s a shared choice.

What’s the biggest snag with money?

We dig in, because the fix differs by cause.

What weighs most on your intimate life?

Deliberately general — we’re not after any detail.

The jealousy comes mostly from…

The source completely changes which lever helps.

Where do the gaps widen?

Select all that apply. Risk is the average of the gaps you select.

Where do your visions diverge?

Select all that apply. This is where the forecast gets useful.

During escalation, what happens most?

We pin down the exact pattern, because each has its own antidote.